The Phooey Principle*

Ken Stoltzfus, Feb. 8, 2003

 

 

   Kitty is pregnant - - - again. The parrot died. Or the goats got out and trimmed the neighbor's garden.

   You might bring your guests home from church and find a very contented dog lying in the corner. Then you discover that the steaks you had sitting out to thaw are gone. (Oh, poor doggy!)

   You grab your travel mug on your way out the door, grateful that your wife has filled it for you. A few minutes up the road you take a sip and sense that it's a bit thin. Another sip and you realize it's only the water that she was preheating it with. You were supposed to fill it yourself.

   Remember the long awaited camping trip - - and then it rained the whole blasted time? Literally rivers of water ran down across your site and under your camper! 

   There was the time you and your wife were traveling late at night. You crawled in the back seat to catch a few zzz's while she drove. When you awoke you saw signs indicating the miles to a city you were not supposed to be going toward.

   Maybe worse yet, you're a truck driver and your wife is with you. She's asleep in the bunk when you make a quick pit stop. While you're out, she gets awake and feels the urge too. She is sure she has time to run in or at least you will miss her when you come out. She does but doesn't, you don't - - until an hour up the road.

   How 'bout the time you spent most of an afternoon getting pork chops smoked and grilled just right for your kids and grankids, and they tasted like cardboard. You did it twice before you figured out what was happening! That's especially hard when you have this fantasy about being a pretty keen griller.

   Life can be just awful! We can really get bent out of shape! We get sick at the wrong time. Things break, and we break things. People let us down. Our favorite store goes out of business. Friends move away. There's a zillion things that can go wrong and they seem to enjoy coming in bunches.

   Some "stuff" we bring upon ourselves, like forgetting that we have the water running in the tub. Or backing out of the garage with a car door open. Or locking the keys in the car at the mall. So maybe there's something to be learned there! Possibly it's time to slow down a bit or start thinking instead of just doing! And perhaps we should quit procrastinating so much if the tire went flat at the wrong time but we knew it had a slow leak.

   We usually want to blame someone. The closest target is frequently those we love the most. For whatever reason we can be most unmerciful with our family in reacting to these intrusions. Even when we are responsible ourselves we try to shift blame to others.

   And I get so tired of people blaming the devil. Sheeech! Listen, stuff happens! Often, the devil is not as much in the event as in our response to it. 

   There are several reasons why we respond so negatively, even to little stuff. Things that won't make any difference a hundred years from now, or even tomorrow.

   First, we take ourselves so seriously. Like, "The future of society hinges on my plans for the next hour and now look - - the wife wants me to mow the lawn because her family is coming. It really ticks me off!" Oh sure!

   We are proud individuals. Very proud. We like to be in control. We think we know what's best for us. Plans are made and now God, nature, happenstance, our spouse, the dog and the devil had better not interfere, or we're gonna be in a bad mood! Sooombody's gonna pay!

   C'mon, let's get real. Most, probably 99.9% of this is not such a big deal. We need to relax a bit and roll with the punches. We often said in Kenya, "If you can't bend, you'll break". There are always surprises and disappointments. We need to look at these things, call them what they are, and just say "Phooey!". They happened, we can't change that, and it's time to move on.

   Sometimes we've got to laugh at the absurdity of it all. It doesn't do a bit of good to get mad. Some of our family's best memories are from the stupid stuff that happened along the way. We sit around and tell stories and laugh - - often at ourselves.

   I've been through some pretty deep waters over the years. I've come to see that if we will trust and submit to the love and sovereignty of God, even downpours can run off of us like water off a ducks back. We don't have to get all worked up!

   Even better, the most painful invasions into my life, created the opportunity for the best things in my life! If we walk with God when life, or people or the devil take things away from us, He'll replace it with something better. I know that’s hard to accept but it's true. It's the Romans 8:28, 29 thing.

   So try it. When you feel your insides starting to rise 'cause things are getting messed up for you, just stop for a moment, look it square in the eyes, and say "phooey". And then laugh at yourself for starting to get all serious about it, and go on with your day! I think you'll like it.

 

* Some of these events happened to me, some to my friends and others to you.

  

   Born in 1940, Ken Stoltzfus has worked as a pilot, ordained Christian minister, businessman, missionary to Africa and writer. This is #15 in his series, "The View from up Life's Path", and is one of many short articles that can be found at www.flyinghigher.net

 

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